Signs someone's getting tired of you.

 

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but many of us are better able to deal with people at a distance. We tend to get along much better! All hell breaks loose the moment we have to live with them every day. 

There are instances where we have to move in with a partner, friend, or relative. Sometimes due to circumstances beyond our control. 

While many are open and warm at first. There are times when we can tell that the royal treatment is coming to an end and we have overstayed our welcome.

 Below I'll share with you some signs that someone is getting a bit tired of you. 

1. There's a change of attitude. 

There are visible changes in their attitude. Their tone is harsher and their body language is unwelcoming. They get mad for reasons you sometimes don't know about. 

Most often, a passive-aggressive type of behavior. They'll slam the doors. Bang the pots and pans. Sulk for hours, without ever saying a word to you. 

2. You seem to be a burden to them.

Everything has become a chore. They don't get excited to do the things they used to do for you. They'll take long deep breaths. They might throw their arms in the air, fold them with an attitude or stomp their feet in frustration. 

3. They throw shades at you.

They'll call you names and mumble things beneath their breath whenever they're around you. They'll pretend as if they're talking to themselves, but it's loud enough for you to hear and you know that they're throwing shades at you.

4. You can't seem to impress them anymore.

It seems to be an uphill task to meet their needs. Things that used to wow their eyes, no longer suit their taste. There's a fault with everything. You're running out of ways to please them.

5. They don't talk much.

You don't get much out of them. They're not as chirpy as usual. They say little to nothing. Conversations are forced and limited to very few words. Sometimes nothing at all.

6. They no longer take you places with them.

They'll dress up and leave. You don't know where they're going.  When they're coming back and they no longer ask if you want to accompany them. You now have to assume that they're going to X place because of the way they're dressed or a conversation you overheard them saying they are going somewhere.

7. They try to limit or deny your access.

They may limit your access to their food, entertainment, and other things in the house. They might put a lock on their food pantry and refrigerator. Limit your time in the shower and set a strict curfew when you have to turn off the lights at night. 

8. The atmosphere is super tense.

They are a ticking time bomb. You don't know if and when they'll go off. You're afraid of doing something that they don't like. You're afraid of saying something that might upset them and you're always hoping that they'll come home in a good mood.

9. They disrespect you.

 For example, going through your stuff and using them without asking. Closing the door in your face. Changing the channel when you're watching the TV, etc.

Why do people get fed up with someone after a certain time?

There are times when people are only tolerating others, once that time is up, their true colors start to show. 

There are also times when people genuinely want to help others but it doesn't work out well.

These are a few reasons some people got fed up with having others in the same space as them.

• Laziness 

• Untidiness

• Prolonged periods of unemployment.

• Limited freedom.

• Little to no contribution towards the household.

• Lack of accountability.

• Theft

• Disrespect

•  Irresponsible behavior.

• Excessive bills.

• Limited privacy.

• Clinginess.

• Additional stress and anxiety.

What to do when you're getting tired of someone?

Address your concerns. People can't read your mind. Communication is always key. If we don't communicate properly, people will make wrong assumptions, and misinterpret the message that we are trying to send.

Many people have shared their nightmare experiences of moving in with family members and friends. For some, the good treatment only lasted for two weeks, after that, they met the real deal and they had to find somewhere else to go.

People will never forget the way you treated them. Remember, the tables can turn at any moment and the same way you treated others, someone else might treat you the same.

In Jamaica we say, seeing me and living with me are two different stories. Meaning, people can be completely different at home than how you're used to them.

  If you're planning to share space with someone for free. Whether it's your new lover, family member, or friend. 

 There are a few things that you can do that will help to make your stay a bit more comfortable.

Some things that come free are not so free. Someone has to pay all the bills, and if you're not one of them who'll be contributing. 

At some point, you'll get the memo that having you around comes at a cost.

Here is a few heads up:

Try to be fair. No one wants someone lying in bed or on their couch all day, eating their food, burning their kilowatts while they have to go out and work. 

Be considerate and offer to help out as much as you can. Conserve on their food and utilities. Clean up after yourself. Respect their boundaries and use their furniture and appliances with care. If it's a case where you plan to stay for an extended period. 

Let them know from the offset so they can make the necessary adjustments to accommodate you. Some people can only accommodate additional company up to a certain point.  If you're able to work try to get a job that will help to take care of the additional expenses.

If you've done all these things and they're still giving you the cold shoulders; they want you to go. 

Maybe they were only tolerating you for as long as they could and that time has ran out.

What's your take? Have you ever experienced someone tired of having you around? Comment below! 

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